Reclaim your Dragon

by E-NewsCast Team
June 26th, 2010

It’s hard to fix a problem when we don’t know its cause. Yet,when it comes to relationship issues, we might be reluctant tolook at the cause. Maybe we get scared about what we might findout. Maybe we blame ourselves and wonder if there is somethingawful about us, just because something goes really wrong on oneof our dates .Basic human nature is essentially good. Throughout history, mostbad stuff was done by people who believed they were right. Theymay have been crazy to think that, but they at least convincedthemselves that they were right – despite how awful they mighthave felt about it later.Very few people do bad things knowing that is what they aredoing and are able to feel good about it. The fact is that wefeel bad about doing bad, because we are essentially good. Wefeel good about doing good also, because we are essentiallygood. That makes sense, right?Yet, there can be this nagging doubt. Maybe there is a bit of usthat doesn’t always want to do good. Maybe we are trying to keepthis part in check and that makes us wonder whether the part ofus that wants to be bad is the ‘real us’. I call this the partof myself The Dragon because it almost feels like that is whatit is.But, remember in myths and stories the Dragon sits on a ‘hoardof gold’. The ‘gold’ symbolizes the gifts The Dragon offers us.However, it is not so much in the form of outer riches. It isimmense inner wealth that The Dragon offers – when we learn howto relate to it in the right way.When we deny The Dragon inside us we deny its wealth too. Wehave his hoard of gold inside us yet it inaccessible and becomesuseless to us. This makes us ‘needy’ of other people. It canmake is too dependent on others for nourishment and support. Weend of ‘sucking’ on others when we really would rather feel more’giving’.How can we tap in to the power of The Dragon?The Dragon lives in a ‘cave’, so first we have to go to thatcave. We need to pull back from the world a little and go on an’inner quest’. This inner quest leads us to the sources ofnourishment inside ourselves.This does not mean we have to change a thing in the outer world.We can still do the laundry, do our email, talk to people, holddown our job and so on.What is means is that we stop ‘leaning’ on other people so much.When we feel ‘needy’ and ‘wanting’ of someone rather than doingthe usual things (whatever they are for you) we pull back andwait a little bit.We just let ourselves be ‘needy’ for a while and see where thatinwardly leads us rather than looking for answers outside. Thefeeling will take us to a sense of something we want. We maythink we know what we want already, but if we follow thatfeeling – in that moment – we may find that what we really wantsurprises us.At first we might find a certain amount of anger inside of us,or even an a lot of rage, and our Dragon may need to ‘blow fire’for a while till it it ready to quiet down a bit.If we kindly ask ourselves ‘Why do I want that?’ even to themost obvious wants we get deeper into our inner cave. We mayfind that what we really want is covered by things believe we’should’ want, rather than what we actually want.This one of the golden gifts The Dragon offers you: the simpletruth about the unexpressed feelings about what we really want.Later it also begins to offer you the abilities to make thingshappen, but first you must accept the truth. It does not workthe other way around. Your abilities only arise as you trulyaccept your need of them.Once we have a sense of what we truly want, we can then holdthat feeling. We can hold it as if is something precious, forthat is what it truly is. It is part of us. It is not somethingwe ought to discard, or get rid of as soon as possible -tempting as that may be… It is important to hold the feelingrather than trying to escape from it. When we hold the feelingwe can use it as fuel to do the inner part of creating what wewant.We can then start to move to the feeling of, ‘What would it belike to have that need met?’. What would it really feel like.Where would we be? What would be the look on our face?As we hold in ourselves how it will feel to have that need metsomething very interesting happens. It awakens in us thecreativity, the ideas and the things we need to do to make ithappen. It may be that later we want to visualize, and write orsay affirmations to reinforce this process.We may get ideas of courses we want to take, books we want toread, places we want to go and so on. We can later exploretheses things and see where they take us. They may take us toeither a fulfillment of a need, or a deeper sense of what weneed. Both are good. For it is not about running away from ourneeds, but of being able to be with them.”What is different?”, you may wonder. Well, rather than thisbeing an outer desperate search it is an inner quiet search.Yes, this can lead to outer action, but the action then comesfrom a sense of creating rather than sense of desperation. Weare standing on our own two feet and moving without such a senseof wanting to lean on others.When we connect with our deepest needs we often find that wehave the resources inside ourselves to meet them and don’treally ‘need’ other people as much as we thought. We then havemore to give. And, guess what happens? Other people pick up onthat. Does that make us more attractive? You bet it does!In doing this we transform the consuming fire of The Dragon intoa life giving force that helps bright light and warmth into ourlives. We find that our needs our really precious gems that leadus to knowing ourselves better. We find that we have previouslyuntapped gifts, skills and abilities that help us improve ourown lives and the lives of those around us.When we stop earnestly searching for what we want ‘out there’ wecan then start searching inside ourselves. That leads us to theresources we already have inside us to create a deeper and morefulfilling life. The ancient sages have said it for a long time- well, from ancient times at least – that the answers areinside us. Maybe they are right and we ought to give it a try.Maybe then we will attract the one we are looking for, orperhaps even find we don’t really need them so much as wethought. After all we have a The Dragon to take care of and TheDragon is taking care of us…

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