Ways to be Romantic

by E-NewsCast Team
May 13th, 2010

Rarely does Valentine’s Day pass by without your notice. Even ifyou are single and think the day has no significance, the daywill arrive and you will want a relationship more than usual. Ifyou are in a relationship and Valentine’s Day does not getcelebrated, it will leave hurt and resentment in its wake.I invite you to think of Valentine’s Day as “Focus on Love Day,”as opposed to “Hurt About Lack of Love Day” or “Ignore BeingSingle Day.”Below you will find ways to make your “Focus on Love Day”extraordinarily romantic, whether you are in a long-termrelationship, dating, or are single.A note for people who are in a new relationships, or who aredating someone but are not in a committed relationship. At thebeginning of a relationship, it is best not to have too anyexpectations about how Valentine’s Day will be celebrated. It isalso best not to get disappointed if it is not celebrated injust the way you would want. In time, as you and your partnerget closer, both of you will be able to celebrate Valentine’sDay and other holidays in more meaningful ways.This Valentine’s Day, create a perfect “Focus on Love Day” foryourself, regardless of what your dating partner may or may nothave planned for you. Look at the suggestions for singles below.Then, do something small, but meaningful for your datingpartner. Look for suggestions for couples below, but tone theactivity down a bit.And now, 10 ways to make your “Focus on Love Day”extraordinarily romantic:1. The Perfect DayCouples: See if you can start to notice what your lover dreamsabout, wishes for. Listen for small, attainable things that canmake a big difference. Alternatively, subtly question your loverabout what he/she pictures as the perfect Valentine’s Day. Nowtake the information you have gathered and make it into aperfect day for him or her.Singles: If you had a partner, what would you have him or her doto create your perfect Valentine’s Day? Create it for yourself -love yourself that much.2. The Perfect Card + One Perfect RoseCouples: Buy or make a lovely card and then fill it to the brimwith words of love, admiration and appreciation. By “fill it tothe brim,” I mean leave no white space untouched. Present itwith one perfect rose.Singles: Buy or make a lovely card for yourself, and just asabove, fill it to the brim with words you want to hear from yourfuture lover. Seal the envelope and open it on Valentine’s Day.Present it to yourself with one perfect rose.3. Valentine’s Day is Not Just for WomenCouples: Ladies, I have it on good authority that guys want tobe celebrated too. So get him flowers and candy and a card, too. Singles: Guys, give yourself that same wonderful Valentine’s Dayas a relationship partner would give you. You may feel silly,but you will also feel good.4. Say Goodbye to Obligation, Say Hello to Open HeartCouples: Don’t give or do anything out of obligation thisValentine’s Day. Give only from your heart, from love andtreasuring your partner. No matter how good or bad yourrelationship is going, get in touch with how much you truly loveand appreciate your partner. Give from that space.Singles: Don’t beat yourself up for not having a partner. Youhave not failed. You are not bad. Valentine’s Day can be “Focuson Love for Yourself Day” as easily as “Focus on Love forAnother Day.” 5. The Gift of Undivided AttentionCouples: Give your partner the gift of undivided attention andsee if she or he doesn’t find that the most romantic thinggoing. Singles: Give yourself the gift of your own undivided attention.Take away all of the distractions and be with yourself the wayyou would want your partner to be with you.6. Gift of Communication, ICouples: Men, allow your woman to talk about whatever her heartdesires, and listen. Ladies, let your man talk or answer yourquestion without finishing his sentences for him, interruptinghim, or moving on to the next topic. See if this doesn’t makesparks fly.Singles: Either find a person who will listen to you the way youneed to be heard, or give yourself space and time to listen toyour own thoughts and feelings or to journal.7. Gift of Communication, IICouples: Ladies, give your man the gift of sitting down next tohim in silence. No talking allowed. Men, give your lady the giftof talking and sharing from your heart. No closing down, wallingup or running away allowed. Singles: Either silence or open heart, give yourself whicheverone you need.8. A Gift with InterestCouples: Is your partner into computers, and you don’t know amouse from a monitor? Or is she into gardening, but to you arose is just a rose? Give your partner the gift of your interestin something that is important to him or her. Go ahead, ask yourpartner a question about it and see the smile light up his orher face.Singles: Give yourself the gift of time to pursue your importantinterests. Take the time to do something that nourishes you andmakes you happy.9. The TrustCouples: Ladies, give the man in your life the gift of trustinghim to know how and when to take care of himself and you. Trustthat he will do the best he can for Valentine’s Day. Gentlemen,hold her trust sacred, and learn to listen for subtle requests.Then honor them. The celebration of love will feel good to bothof you.Singles: Today, trust your process and your fate. Today, trustthat you too will be loved and cherished by a partner. Today,remember all the people who already love and cherish you.10. A Shower of WordsCouples: Write your loved one a love letter or poem and read itto them on Valentine’s Day. Here come the tears. Singles: Write yourself a love letter or poem, exactly the wayyou would want it written by a lover. Read it to yourself outloud and have Kleenex ready.Plan to have a happy Valentine’s Day!Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract yourideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship,or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship CoachRinatta Paries can teach you the skills and techniques toattract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visitwww.WhatItTakes.com where you’ll find quizzes, classes, adviceand a free weekly ezine. Become a “true love magnet(tm)!”

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